13 & 14 weeks

How far along: 13 and 14 weeks

Total weight gain: Haven't weighed myself since last doctors appointment

Maternity clothes? Heck yes I love them! Just ordered a few new pairs of pants from Old Navy. Still fitting into my regular jeans, just using the hair tie trick to keep them buttoned. I also tried the belly band this week and it is AMAZING!

Sleep: A few weird dreams these weeks, but sleeping so great. School started so we are so tired by the end of the day!

Best moment this week: Meeting my new kiddos and seeing my old students. It is so nice to be back in the swing of things. It's also so much fun having Conrad in the same school and we have lunch together and it has just been amazing.

Worst moment this week: Throwing up stuffed crust pizza YUCK & up all night sick one night.

Cravings/Aversions: I really really wanted pink starburst one day at school! Also still loving cottage cheese and tomatoes.

Symptoms: I am feeling good, finally feeling ready to go on nightly walks again with Conrad and grigs. I have hit three buckets of soft toss this week and NO BACK PAIN which is so refreshing!

Looking forward to: seeing my belly continue to grow and finding out the gender soon!  Such a cool and fun process!

15&16 weeks

 How far along: 15&16 weeks! 

Total weight gain: 2lbs

Maternity clothes? YES.

Sleep: So far so good, been feeling more uncomfortable on my stomach, dreading the day I have to stop.

Best moment this week: Getting to have another ultrasound and see baby moving around.

Cravings/Aversions: Not a lot of cravings except one cry session for McDonald's this week.

Symptoms: having a lot of round ligament pain, but otherwise feeling pretty good!

Looking forward to: feeling baby move and finding out gender! 

BABY SCHOTTEL!

We are SO glad our news is finally public! We are expecting Baby Schottel in February! 

Can you tell it was early when we found out?! We were so tired and so excited! The exact due date is February 19th. This has been such a fun ride so far and we are just soaking in all these moments that we yearned for and wanted for so long. Such a special time and huge blessing.

As I am typing this I am 12 weeks 3 days! We have had 3 ultrasounds so far. YES THREE. We had our first appointment at 7 weeks 3 days where we got to see baby (or a little gummy bear) and heard the heartbeat. It was an emotional appointment and some tears were shed. Just so crazy that our sweet little one is in my body! The heart rate was 157 at the first appointment and everything was looking great.
About a week and a half after that I was having intense lower pelvic and back pain and when I called my nurse she said that tends to happen and is normal. When I told her how far along I was she seemed concerned and started asking a lot of questions. They were afraid there was an infection or something could be wrong because of the severity of the pain and how low it was. They said it shouldn't be that severe this early. The pain was so bad Conrad was helping me walk and get up and down. It was the worst when I would lay down, it was so hard to relax. I went in the next morning and had some tests done and everything came out okay! We got another ultrasound and baby was growing and looked great. So thankfully it wasn't connected. They referred me to a Osteopathic Manipulative Medicine doctor that spent an hour doing stretches and massaging my back to help me feel better. They said this is something that a lot of pregnant woman have to do just to help the pain. The pain is very sporadic and I can't figure out what helps alleviate the pain so we are just working through it when it comes.

Our next appointment was August 3rd, where we got our 3rd and best ultrasound yet because baby was moving all over the place!! As soon as the ultrasound started the doctor said, "Whoa that is a busy baby!" The arms and legs were moving so fast and we just started laughing it was so cute to see. Heart rate was 171! Baby looked great and everything was right on pace and our next appointment is at the beginning of September.


I will be doing weekly updates on the blog, this is just such an easy way to document the pregnancy and all the emotions that go with it. So starting on Friday my first post will go up about week 12!

12 weeks

How far along: 12 weeks

Total weight gain: 0 lbs. I have lost 1/2 a pound actually!

Maternity clothes: None of my jeans fit anymore so I am wearing athletic shorts and one pair of maternity jeans. These things are the best and most comfy pants ever! I can see these becoming a staple especially when school starts up next week!

Sleep: I no longer need a nap in the middle of the day thankfully. I am sleeping so good at night besides the INSANE pregnancy dreams. They are extremely vivid and seem so real and I wake up drenched in sweat. Fun.

Best moment this week: The best moment this week was getting to wear my normal clothes again and not having to try and hide the bump! SO many people have commented that I am already showing and trust me I am feeling it!

Cravings/Aversions: Craving healthy, fresh, cold food like cottage cheese and tomatoes. They have been a necessity so far this pregnancy. I don't really want dessert, it doesn't gross me out but I would rather have other things. I also am living off of Carnation Instant Breakfasts in the morning. It kicks my nausea to the curb so I can start my day off great!

Symptoms: I have only thrown up a few times this pregnancy, with weeks 10 and 11 being the worst, I think I ate something that disagreed with me a few days ago because I got the chills and couldn't stop throwing up, but since then everything has been fine. Still having slight nausea in the morning, I am losing my breath a lot faster while talking, and crossing my fingers it stays this way but my back pain has been okay this week!

Looking forward to: This week I am looking forward to school starting and getting into my routine again!

ONE

We are coming up on ONE year of marriage. We aren't experts in marriage, aren't striving to be, and won't ever be. Marriage is different for every couple who share in this amazing unity. What we think of marriage and what works for us could be completely different for you. That is the beauty of it all.  

What we ARE striving to do is to grow closer to each other, to God, and to continously work on OUR marriage. Listed below are some things we have learned about our marriage in the past year and we wanted to share it with you:

You'll see through this blog we have taken our ideas and somewhat thrown them together. Conrad's thoughts are in black print.

Samantha's thoughts are in blue  print.

About 6 months into our marriage, I began to sit under the counsel of one of the strongest and wisest men I know. Conversations I shared with this mentor have rescued me from so much heartache and brought us immeasurable joy.  

Were I to list with you all of the numerous nuggets of wisdom I have gleaned from my mentor, this post would be obnoxiously long. So here are 3 of my favorites..

1)Chaos is normal.....and OK.

In all dimensions of life in this world, chaos is normal. But this is especially true in marriage. Living life with another person from the opposite sex in such close quarters is messy, literally and figuratively. So much of my internal annoyances early in my marriage all stemmed from the fact that I wanted my life and our marriage to fit into a pretty little box with a ribbon on it. I wanted life to work on my terms. I want Samantha to always be delightful and cheery. I want the apartment to be spotless and orderly. I want to feel like I'm in total control of all aspects of my life. I want to be energetic and kick ass at work. I want to budget every stinkin penny of our money with precision and power. But as you can guess, reality almost never matches my divine expectations. Chaos is normal. And that's OK. In fact, its extremely good. It disrupts my perfectionism and releases a TON of pressure I put on myself. Embracing the constant chaos of life actually gives me permission to be myself--a dearly loved, favorite son of my Papa in Heaven. 

2) "The worse she does, the better she's doing." 

This is one of those pieces of gold that my mentor shared with me. And it completely transformed how I handle conflict and confrontation in marriage. My mentor explained that there is no reason to worry when Samantha gets extremely angry with me, or when she is emotional. This is actually a GOOD thing. When I first heard this it made no sense at all.

 But he explained, "When Samantha attacks you or is rather animated with her emotions, this is gold. This shows that she feels safe. Women want to feel safe, they want to especially feel safe when they are at their wits end. Right now, shes testing the waters. With every conflict or outburst, her heart is asking this question: 'How much of me will you accept? How much of me can you really handle? 30%? 50%? Can you handle all of me at my very worst?' Thus, conflict and certain situations that arise, are not about solving the problem at hand, or saving the day. You don't have to be superman to Samantha. You just have to be present, and show her, time and time again, that you accept her and that her heart is safe with you." 

This counsel is so holy. It has completely transformed our marriage, and me. I don't have to save the day, I just have to listen to her heart. I don't have to solve all the problems or 'figure it out', I just have to be present to Samantha. 

3) It's all about unity. 

Money. Sex. Work. Vacation. Exercise. Reading. Church. Family. All of these categories, in addition to the many more that married life has to offer, are all about one thing: Unity. 

Our financial situation isn't about saving up for a down payment, or budgeting our money perfectly. It's about unity. It's about sharing life in this context, and pursuing a holy and rare context in our marriage--Two Becoming One. Its the Fathers original design and intent when it comes to marriage, and the more we step into this category of unity in different situations, the more life and joy we seem to stumble upon.  

I have learned so much about Conrad and our marriage in this past year and I can't ever get them all down on paper but here is what I have so far.

1)This world has a sad and negative view of marriage. They blow off our romance and giddiness for each other by saying that we are just 'newlyweds' and that it will fade in the next few years. We absolutely refuse to let that happen. We have been together almost 8 years and we continue to cherish, romance, and enjoy our time together. Not only is our relationship the two of us, but we have our loving and guiding Jesus who is constantly with us. He is always showing us that our time on earth is nothing compared to eternity together. I want to pray for Conrad and show him Jesus's love every day and I know he desires to do the same. So when I am having a bad day and he brings me flowers, it is not us being newlyweds, it is Conrad sharing Jesus's heart and love with me. When Conrad is dealing with a lot and I write him a note to just remind him how much he is cherished and adored, that is not us being 'newlyweds' it is me extending God's love to him.

We will continue to do this no matter the cost and I guess if it is viewed by the world as being 'newlyweds' then I really  hope we never stop being newlyweds. 

2) Conflict is okay. When we lean into God and what He is saying about us the exaggeration of conflict is diminished and a new light is shined when trouble arises. The devil is constantly waiting for conflict to break out so he can exaggerate it and separate our thoughts, and ultimately us. When we think negative thoughts about our spouse it is the devil sneaking into our minds and twisting whatever just happened. The sooner we realized this the quicker our fights and arguments turned into discussions and appreciation of one another. We are two different people, who think and do completely different things. There are going to be times where we disagree. Conflict begins to bring us closer to one another when we remember to disagree with respect and unfailing love.

Marriage is the hardest thing I have ever done. It's also been the best thing I've ever done. 

Learning as I go

5 months ago I wandered to a new town with my new husband to start a new job.

Whoa. A lot of 'new' things were happening.

I had thought a lot about what I wanted to do when I got to Kirksville. I knew I would substitute teach,  but I had a decision on whether I would be a personal trainer for the business Conrad would manage. I had said no multiple times, but one day God told me YES. and so reluctantly, I took on a new adventure of personal training. What a glorious blessing it has become.

 

Through many months of the storms of adjusting to a new place my clients were the rainbows that kept me going.

 They became not only clients, but friends. Friends that cared about me deeply as a person. Friends that showed me God's love.  They listened as I cried and laughed. They shared new recipes with me. They shared tips on laundry, cleaning the house, and how to love well. They told me about friendships that have slowly faded and others that have continued to grow strong. They opened up to me. They told me stories about their marriages and about their lives. I got to see their hearts shine through when they talked about things they excelled at and I got to see even more of their hearts when they talked about their struggles. These are confident woman. They have been through so much and still truly love and enjoy life. They enjoy the woman God has created them to be.

 

The biggest things these woman have taught me is that life is full of changes. Friends come and go, jobs come and go, life is constantly changing.

One thing never changes. God's love. His love is constant. God created me just how I am. He loves me just how I am, my weaknesses and all. How remarkable is that?

  I am so glad God led me to this road and as reluctant as I was, used this to help me become a better woman.

This is my last week training my friends, before I head off to have a friend filled month of July and then start my new journey as a teacher and a coach.

 

 

I say thank you.

Thank you to God, who guides my heart into places where I can grow.

Thank you to my husband, who has been my support and guidance through a new job. Thank you for accepting me into his work place and letting me share 5 fabulous months working with him you. These are months I will forever cherish with you.

Thank you to my clients(friends). I will never forget your life lessons and your love that you showed me.

Unanswered Questions

I have to remind myself all the time of the plan my faithful God has for my life. The God I love and talk to is a God who never fails to shine his light on me. He gives me a sunrise in the morning, the birds chirping, or a breeze that blows across my cheek when I need it the most. It is through college that I learned to become tuned in to  His little gifts showing me He is near. My God is one who romances me every day, but he is not a God who is always quick to give answers or show me His plan. I always want an answer right away, I mean He knows what is going to happen so why can't He just show me right now? We live in a world that needs everything quickly and I love how constant our Father is and always shows up at the right time.

Now let me just tell you, I love a good planner. I love to spend time with planner and organize my life. I like to know what is coming next and I like to have everything in order. I am not a huge fan of spontaneity. Text me at 4pm and ask me to come to dinner at 6pm? WHOA HOLD ON. I didn't have that planned. I like to be spontaneous and do fun things, if I am aware they are happening.

So it is during this time in my life. A time full of unanswered questions that I grow closer to God. It is a time where I have to rely on Him and trust His plan for me. I could go on and on about all the things I am not sure of in my life.

But one thing remains the same.

God's love.

It never fails, never waivers. He always pursues me and romances me. He blesses me with a husband who serves God, loves me like Jesus does, and prays for me daily. He blesses me with friends who even though too many miles apart continue to put in effort to keep our friendships strong. He blesses me with family who supports me in everything I do and is always looking for what's best for me. He blesses me with new opportunities and experiences in a new city. He blesses me with challenge, with the hard stuff, with drawing me nearer to Him no matter what day to day living might look like.

 

So I may not know what the next year, next week, or even tomorrow look likes for me. My planner may be empty, but my heart is so alive.